I don't feel like writing today. Please feel free to comment on the posed questions though.
Do you think chosen singleness is looked down upon in today's society? Do we have to choose between a family or a career? Is it at all possible to be fully devoted to both?
Song of the Day:
To be Alone with You by Sufjan Stevens
2 comments:
Chosen singleness eh? Well...I guess as someone who's chosen singleness since the time that the alternative was an option, I'm not sure "society's" view on the matter is one that I ever really cared about. Our society looks down upon a lot of the ways that I live my life and that hasn't ever really concerned me.
In regards to singleness though, I think people judge you in relation to what you mean by your decision to stay single. Is he single cause he couldn't hack it in a relationship? Is he single cause he doesn't have any guts to do anything about his attractions? Or maybe he's single cause he chatted with the big guy upstairs and the resounding response was always "wait".
That gets tiring. But in retrospect what I've regretted most are the times when I've wished it weren't so and crippled myself emotionally with infatuations that my convictions and obedience to God kept me from acting upon.
The fear or the divine rationale was always that a relationship would keep me from what God wanted me to do for him in highschool and even last year in montreal. But I think I'm starting to see that it doesn't have to be like that, that it shouldn't be like that.
If I honestly think that entering into a relationship with a girl will be distracting and hindering me from what I feel God calling me to do for him, I shouldn't even be considering it. There isn't a dichotomy between the two, relationship and life. I think they need to work in tandem. My desire for a romantic relationship is the most intimate of teams.
So it's not a choice between family or career, or a question of which you will be fully devoted to. There is no both because the one is absolutely intertwined with the other. I think that's real intimacy.
-ervine
"There is no both because the one is absolutely intertwined with the other."
Now I don't know quite what you're getting at here but I don't think that relationships are that black and white. Things don't always intertwine and you are ALWAYS going to run into knots. guaranteed. Not saying it can't work, just putting the option out there that this idea of absolute intertwining is far easier said than done.
Thanks for your comment friend.
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